As I stated in my introduction, my plan is to examine the differences between different types of arranged marriages and contrast them with love marriage. I decided to focus in more on the different types of arranged marriages because this is something that I know almost nothing about. It’s very different then the typical stories of marriage that we are used to hearing about here in the U.S. and I’d like to learn more about it to better understand.
Arranged marriages happen in many different cultures around the world for a variety of reasons. Sometimes there are close relationships amongst wealthy families and the parents want to marry their children as a sort of way to connect the two families and their assets together. Other times it can be for more selfish reasons, such as parents having their daughters bought from them as brides (sometimes at VERY young age) for generous prices. Not all cases end poorly, many of these arranged marriages turn out to work for people from other cultures. In class, Fred Krissman told us about a young woman who was sold as a bride to a man and had to still win her over after paying “bride price”. The woman was still allowed to go out and pursue other men while she had her husband and did not have to consummate the marriage until he won her heart over. It is a part of many cultures around the world, and in C&C there is a section on arranged marriages starting on page 166 which describes how common it is in places such as India. Many of the people there respect and like the custom, not just the elderly, but the younger people who are being wed off as well. In these marriages, almost always there is a sort of “mutual hospitality between the two families” (page 170 C&C).
Arranged marriage is a practice that has been around for hundreds of years. It was much more popular worldwide before the 18th century, but still exists in some cultures today. These types of marriages have mainly declined in areas of the world that are more prosperous (meaning many first world countries), but are still common in some Mormon groups and royalty within these areas (some of these marriages even happen between first cousins too!). Whether or not the marriage arrangements are made first or third world countries, these marriages are typically arranged by the parents. Sometimes the elder relatives between the two families will help talk out the decision as well. Many times the two do not meet or even know what one another looks like before they are married.
So, how come these marriages tend to work out better statistically then love marriages? That’s what I intend on getting a better grasp at. I plan on going about achieving this, of course, by utilizing resources on the internet. I will also be going through various sections of CA2 and C&C to take a closer look at unions between families and partners, hopefully to find a good example to bring up in my case study in my next post.